does the bulb need to be in for abs and tc to work? 2nd I was using the Pac-Man connector
No. I'd guess they could possibly have been removed to hide the fault. I surmise you have felt the ABS failing through your foot?
What year and engine code is your car?
I have the exact same issue at the moment. My abs has also failed. I have a prefacelift 2.8i with the older style ABS pump system.
The trouble I have is that the early cars seem to have difficulty in reading fault codes in most of the diagnostic systems, even expensive kits and bmw's own diagnostics.
Each abs sensor can be tested with a multimeter and probes, unplugged in situ.
Modules and pumps could also be a failure point as well with the later items far easier to remove and replace/refurbish.
A work in progress for me.