Sorry Flux, written word does not convey the context sometimes. Not being prissy, I just wanted to point out that you won't solve this based on opinion, and that some sort of measurement needs to be done and comparison to a specification. The off set bushes are only for positive toe and up to a certain amount at that. It may be that you fit this category, get your dad to review the alignment data against the spec I put up.
But if it turns out to be accident damage then you need to look at a few more areas than the cross member, as if it has bent in the middle it will have shifted the rear diff mount, and all this plus others will need aligning.
In the uk if a guy has sold an accident damaged repaired car and not declared it, then he is open to prosecution. It may be the same where you are, and you can get your money back.
Good luck, fingers crossed its bushes.